Why men have affairs?
Talk about a loaded subject that no one wants to chat about, that’s it. Funny thing, affairs have been going on since millennium. Extramarital affairs can be filled with problems, cause sadness, and other harms. Plus you should wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and frankness thing, funds, age dissimilarity, religious background, guilt, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this post I should define an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, married man date.
Why do people have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seeking affairs. I suppose mainly though it is just the human nature, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a several explanations I have run across.
Biologically we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and exciting, and sex makes us get away the world for a small period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Some people can switch the wish on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another human being, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos the world has erected against extramarital affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will defeat their doubts and make them risk the fury of not only their relatives, but the public too. So why, what is the means?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is awfully good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically driven sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not harm your family or anyone else? You would need to lessen the risk you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is beneficial to all, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the largest grouping, very big truly. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, apart from they are happy in the way they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the children to look after. Your assets are so tangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be together besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them completing the sex performance, at least not with their othere half. An marital affair occasionally solves the problem while keeping the marriage whole.
Ignoring, sorrowfully this is a ordinary reason I fear. One or the other, frequently the man is sexually neglecting his lady for a large humber of reasons. As a male I actually am thankful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them obtainable to us men of romance, making them “hot wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, maybe it is a lack of love, could be compassion is disappeared, could be it is the closeness, maybe neglect. Maybe we have just developed apart, our relulas interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is opposed to of what you want. Maybe I simply do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they search for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for financial gain, for revenge and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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